As we celebrate Labor Day today, I am also taking some time to reflect upon my mom and dad’s wedding anniversary. It would be 74 years today. My dad died more than 22 years ago. My mom has been gone now just a little over ten months. This is the first time in years when I have not heard the question on September 5, from my mom, “Do you know what today is?” It is hard to believe that she marked the day without dad for more than twenty years.
Dad was in good health when they celebrated their 50th anniversary. We had no idea that just a year and five months later he would no longer be with us. The photographs have faded with time; my brothers have aged significantly since then; time marches on. (It’s my blog. I can’t help it if I need to point out the aging of my brothers while I stay young and dapper.)
Today is a day of gratitude. On this Labor Day I am thankful that I am healthy enough, strong enough, and fortunate enough to have a job that I enjoy and that provides for my family. Let us take a moment today to pray for all of those who are unemployed or underemployed. Let us pray for all those working in awful conditions. Let us pray for those trapped in human trafficking and forced into labor, especially those coerced into sexual slavery. Let us not take for granted the blessings we have received. May we utilize our resources to help those less fortunate than ourselves!
I am grateful for the precious gift of family–starting with my mom and dad. As I looked at the photo above I was quietly reflecting that just six years prior to that celebration I was fighting for my life going through chemotherapy treatments. Over a four month period my mom and dad sat at the hospital with me for 52 says. I know that wasn’t how they planned to spend their retirement.
I don’t know whether Margaret and I will make it to 50 years or not–only because we were older when we got married. We will take it a day at a time and see what happens. As for today, I simply remember my mom and dad and say, “HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!”
I saw a comment this morning on social media which stated, “Last Friday in July. Slow down summer.” The days do seem to pass quickly as we get older. Psalm 90 verse 10 says that “our life span is seventy years, or eighty for those who are strong, and most of these are emptiness and pain.” That doesn’t sound very hopeful, but it states a reality that we should not ignore.
In my younger years I heard many sermons about the four last things: death, judgment, heaven and hell. While these were not delivered with the exuberance of the preacher portrayed in the movie Pollyannathey still sent an undeniable message. There will come a time when I render an account of my life before Almighty God. That is not to be taken lightly.
The political conventions are both over. Praise God for the opportunity to grow in the virtue of patience and long-suffering over these last two weeks. I realize that the nomination of a woman for president is an historical moment in our country. As I watched the camera focus in on a lady with tears running down her face, I knew this was a moment with great emotional attachments. There was a part of me that wanted to cry as well, but for a very different reason. Over the course of four days I watched repeatedly the boisterous applause and fanatical affirmation of the culture of death.
Abortion has touched the lives of many women (and men) over these last 43 years since Roe versus Wade legalized abortion in our country. My heart breaks for the pain and anguish that many women have experienced in their lives. Unfortunately, our culture has created a narrative around abortion that just does not expose the whole truth. The post-abortion grief and suffering is real. The pro-death politicians never seem to consider that part of the equation when promoting and celebrating the legalization of infanticide.
My dear friends, if you have been touched by the scourge of abortion in your life, please know that forgiveness and healing can be found in Jesus Christ. If you are struggling with grief or any other emotional distress following an abortion please seek help. There are people prepared to walk with you toward healing and hope.
I never imagined that I would live in a society where a whole convention center filled with people would jump up and down in glee each time the words rolled off someone;s lips regarding a “woman’s right to choose.” Think about it. People are emphatically celebrating the right to kill the most helpless among us. Let that soak in for a moment.
The various methodologies used in procuring an abortion all have serious repercussions. If the procedure is successful the baby always dies. Depending upon which procedure is used the baby is either ripped apart by suction, burned by chemicals, or worse.
Let me try to put this perspective. People in that convention center were clamoring in ecstasy about a woman’s right to kill her unborn child in the ways I just described. These same people would revolt and shout profanities to the moon and back if we considered utilizing any type of similar procedure on an animal. They would denounce the cruelty being inflicted upon the animal. It is truly a bizarre world in which we live.
The days of summer do seem to be passing quickly. With each passing day we are also a step closer to coming face to face with Almighty God. We have been blessed with the gift of time and with the gift of grace. What are we doing with these gifts? Are we using our time here on earth to be a faithful witness to Jesus Christ?
When my time on this earth is through and I stand before the King of Kings to render an account of my life, what will it look like from the perspective of God’s eyes? I sometimes imagine Jesus looking at me and asking a single question, “How did you love?” I realize that there are many times I fail to respond to God’s grace and love effectively and deeply. I miss opportunities to do good. For these moments I will need to seek God’s abundant mercy.
While I am physically and mentally able to be involved in the preaching, teaching, and healing ministry of Jesus Christ I will do my best to walk humbly with my God. I will continue to be a voice for the marginalized members of society. This begins with the unborn who have no voice of their own.
The shortness of time on this earth, when compared to the length of eternity, should prompt all of us to pause and meditate on this reality. It does not need to cripple us with immense fear when we reflect on the four last things. However, it should compel us to be more intentional about the use of our time. How frequently do we pray? How fervently do we pray? What are the priorities upon which we focus in our day-to-day lives? Are we genuinely loving the people around us?
The hope in all of this is simple. We are pilgrims on a journey. Our eternal home is with God. It doesn’t get any better than that.
I had the opportunity to visit Fort Laramie, Wyoming yesterday and tour the premises. It was 98 degrees and very little breeze (as noted by the flag hanging straight down). The extreme cold and wind during the winter would be no picnic either. I can only imagine the hardships endured by the people many years ago when they lacked the modern conveniences we now enjoy.
About ten miles away from Fort Laramie I also had the pleasure of visiting the Oregon Trail Ruts as well as Register Cliff. Reading the historical sketches describing life at Fort Laramie and along the Oregon Trail was a humbling endeavor. The United States of America has certainly had its trying times all throughout our history. Progress for one segment of the population (the army) was not viewed as progress at all by another segment (Native American). Divisions continue to exist in modern times along racial and ethnic lines, religious affiliations, liberals and conservatives, rich and poor.
As I watch the political campaigns unfold it becomes more and more evident that our divisions will continue to grow into the future. It isn’t just a matter of liberal and conservative ideologies being in opposition to one another. If an end goal was in mind that could be shared by both political parties we could hope for some unity in a path leading to that goal. Unfortunately, the only common goal that seems to be present as a political platform in either major political party is a lust for power. That leaves the rest of us with very little to build upon as a foundation for peace and prosperity.
Our leaders at the national level repeatedly reveal the cause of our country’s demise. There is a lack of integrity. I looked up the word integrity and found the following definitions from www.dictionary.com:
1. adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty. 2. the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished. 3. a sound, unimpaired, or perfect condition.
If we look at the frequent “flip-flops” of political stances by major players on both sides of the aisle we can easily see that polling data surpasses integrity time and time again.
Someone asked me recently if I was opposed to having a woman for President. Absolutely not. However, I am opposed to the one currently making history as the first woman nominee for the position. An inability to tell the truth and then callously asking, “What difference does it make?” gives me grave concerns about our future as a country.
I believe enough evidence has been garnered during Mrs. Clinton’s career to demonstrate that she is not a very truthful person. In the modern age of showing video clips from the archives directly contradicting current statements that a person has made can make it difficult to hide from the truth even when most of the major media outlets assist in covering up these scandalous contradictions. The truth makes a big difference if we ever hope to be on solid footing as crucial decisions are made.
Sadly, our lack of integrity here at home diminishes our influence throughout the world. This has resulted in added chaos and horrendous violence which we see depicted almost every evening on the nightly newscast. The perception of Mrs. Clinton selling government favors for donations to the Clinton Foundation makes it difficult to have moral authority in the fight against terrorism or any other negotiations as well.
Finally, the question of truth becomes part of the story when Catholic politicians repeatedly ignore the tenets of the faith. Who defines “a good, practicing Catholic?” If the media defines it we are in for some bad press. If the politician defines it we are in for some interesting interpretations of Sacred Scripture and the magisterial teachings of the Church as articulated in the Catechism of the Catholic Church.
My heart aches for the future of our country. We cannot continue to turn away from God and expect no consequences as a result. May each of us be molded by Eternal Truth!
Watching the evening news in any major metropolitan city can be quite depressing. There are stories of violence and crime night after night. How do we cope with grief, sadness, and tragedy when it comes to us in such a steady flow? Do we grow numb to it all? What happens when the tragedy hits close to home? How does that change the perspective?
Over thirty years ago I graduated from college and became a police officer with the St. Louis County Police Department. This small town farm boy was introduced to some realities of life that I had not previously known. It was especially true when I worked the evening or midnight shift. There were nights when one call after another was for a “domestic disturbance.” People who had thought enough of one another at some point to date, live together, or even get married were now fighting intensely with one another.
The things I witnessed were shocking. Once in a while there was a little humor to be found in the mess, but most of the time it was just frightening. Once as I approached a house for a domestic disturbance call I could see through the picture window that a woman was heaving potted plants at her husband. No weapons were in sight. As I entered the scene both parties calmed down. As they each looked at the potting soil covering the floor from about ten potted plants being heaved at the man, they just sort of sighed. A little chuckle even came forth as they thought about the mess that needed to be cleaned up following their spat.
Unfortunately, the majority of the domestic disturbance calls were much more serious. Guns and knives were frequently part of the equation. Others were even more creative. One individual boiled a pot of water, added bleach to it, and then threw it on the sleeping companion. The ways we choose to hurt one another can be extreme.
It was seven years ago yesterday that Ashlin (pictured above) experienced the ultimate domestic violence. In my 17 years of ministry as a deacon I have presided at, or assisted with, numerous funeral rituals. Ashlin’s has been the only memorial service that I have done for a victim of homicide. It was the most heart-breaking service that I have ever led. Ashlin wasn’t just a newscast for me. Domestic violence had struck right into the heart of my family.
Two young toddlers lost both their parents on that day. The grief extended throughout the family at the time and still impacts us seven years later. Each milestone that passes with the kids leaves an aching thought. What would Ashlin think about this?
The world turned upside down on that day for many people. However, the resilience by Ashlin’s mom and so many others around her demonstrates the power of love. I have no words for that kind of love except to say, “Thanks.” Hate, anger, and violence have been overcome by your love. You have been a witness for all of us in regard to courage and fortitude. Keep up the good work.
Finally, I close by reminding all of my readers to seek help if you, or someone you love, are living in a volatile situation. Don’t wait until it is too late. There are resources available to assist you regardless of the circumstances in which you find yourself. Domestic violence is real and it can shatter lives in a heartbeat. Don’t become part of an evening newscast. Seek help before the situation gets to that point.
Editor’s note: in the process of copying blog posts from the old website over to the new one, we have not been copying comments made on old posts. However, because this post features several comments from friends and family of Ashlin and Daniel, we felt it fitting to preserve the comments here. We continue to pray for Ashlin, Daniel, and all of their loved ones.
Glenda – 5/18/2016 09:52:56 am
Thank you for thoughtful words, prayers, wisdom and encouragement.
Deacon Vernon – 5/18/2016 12:39:44 pm
You are welcome, Glenda. Within just a few hours after posting this article I knew how much love and support all of you have. This post has attracted the most views of anything I have published over the last three years. Your family is surrounded with people who care. I hope all of you are able to feel that love and support.
Ruth – 5/18/2016 12:39:08 pm
Thank you for your wonderful kindness and making us aware of the terrible things that domestic violence can do to families. We are all touched by it in one way or another. Courage and love and understanding gives us comfort.
Deacon Vernon – 5/18/2016 12:42:49 pm
You are correct, Ruth. “Courage and love and understanding gives us comfort.” May God’s blessing be upon you and your family as well. We continue to miss Bob too.
Connie Karniski – 5/18/2016 03:53:38 pm
My son Daniel Smith was with Ashlin that night with his son Carter, my son was also murdered with Ashlin that horrible night, my grandson was also left there with her 2 children!!! My heart is forever broken, yes yesterday was the 7 year anniversary, I cry every night, he was my baby, he had such a kind heart!!! I MISS HIM EVERY SECOND OF EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY DAY!!!
Deacon Vernon – 5/18/2016 04:48:04 pm
Connie, please know of my thoughts and prayers for your family as well. I thought about including your son in the article but I wouldn’t do that without your permission. Since I do not know you personally I did not want to ask. I appreciate that you took time to comment. Now I can pray for you by name.
I can only imagine the grief that still burdens your heart. A mother’s love for her child runs deep.
I hope Carter is doing well despite the circumstances surrounding his young life. May God bless all of you with strength.
Debbie Burkett – 5/18/2016 04:37:03 pm
My son is a friend of Ashlin and Daniel it was a very difficult time for everyone, although all 3 kids were there it seems they have great roll models to help them become great young adults. I don’t think anyone ever saw that kind of violence coming unfortunately. My thoughts and prayers are with every one! Involved. Thanks for the great article!!!
Deacon Vernon – 5/18/2016 04:55:29 pm
Thanks for the comment Debbie. The ripple effect that happens when a tragedy like this strikes is far-reaching. As you mention, there are times when we can’t see the violence coming. However, I am hoping to raise awareness just a little bit with my article. If someone is in a volatile situation and they recognize it, I am hoping they will seek help.
The article was picked up by a major website this morning and the message is getting out to hundreds of people. I am trying to bring some good out of the pain. If the article helps just one person it is worth it.
Carol Rhodes – 5/18/2016 07:46:00 pm
What a beautiful writing Vernon. Prayers to Ashlin and her family. Love and hugs to all.
Deacon Vernon – 5/19/2016 08:15:15 am
Thanks Carol. Blessings to you and your family as well.
Linda Schilling – 5/18/2016 08:51:54 pm
Having lived thru the vicious murder of both of my beloved inlaws I can honestly say how these crimes bestow so much heartache to families and communities. This broke my heart for my cousin whose family had to go thru this. Only God can change human hearts and heal these wounds. Pray for those around you and be Jesus to others
Deacon Vernon – 5/19/2016 08:36:59 am
Thank you for your comment Linda. I am sorry for the heartache you endured when your in-laws were killed. You summed it up well. “Only God can change human hearts and heal these wounds.” I have nothing to add to that point.
Chelsea – 5/19/2016 05:17:44 am
This is heart breaking. I can say that in this day and age domestic violence does not get addressed. My ex husband ran me off the freeway with orders of protection in place so he violated them. I captured everything withcamera. The investigator filed charges but the prosecutor dismissed all counts. I think the hurt of being violated and stalked and put into danger and for authorities to not do anything hurt me worse than him running me off the road into a concrete wall did. I think we have to be careful when we educate for people to get help if domestic violence comes up for them that we are not pushing them to more disappointment and risk …I think it is important to educate on domestic violence experts and resources because the local authorities 99% of the time do nothing in these scenarios. rip Ashton. Gone but never forgotten.
Deacon Vernon – 5/19/2016 08:45:14 am
Dear Chelsea,
Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story. I am sorry for what you have endured. You bring up an important point. The systems and structures in place aren’t perfect. However, I also know that there are dedicated people striving constantly to make things better. Will we ever eliminate violence from among us? Probably not. I would never want to set people up for “more disappointment and risk,” but if the issue of domestic violence isn’t addressed at all we have no hope of seeing improvement. I am simply trying to raise awareness. Each local community will have to figure out how to utilize resources to the best of their ability.
It was one month ago today when mom took her last breath on this earth. The picture above was taken just a little over a year ago on October 22, 2014 when I was visiting. I don’t know if mom enjoyed Steak-n-Shake the way I did, but it was a routine stop whenever I was in town. We don’t have Steak-n-Shake in Wyoming, so it is imperative to get my “fix” each time I am in the St. Louis area. Mom would have a strawberry shake and I would have chocolate. Some things were consistent like that.
The circumstances of my own life colliding with the Season of Advent has led to a significant amount of reflection lately. As the Church shifts our attention squarely on the end times, mortality seems to look me directly in the eye. Due to mom’s death last month and my own heart troubles over the past year, the reality of death is very prevalent in my mindset. The shortness of time on this earth and the length of eternity is not something to be taken lightly.
The process of grief is taking place in my life. Even though thirty days have passed since mom’s death I still want to reach for the phone every evening to give her a call to make sure she is okay. After doing that for years, it is a hard habit to break. It will take time.
I hope the first week of Advent is a tremendous blessing in your life!
Pump! Pump your legs! I have no idea how many times I heard those statements when I was learning how to swing. Apparently, I wasn’t the quickest learner around. It seemed to take forever before I could swing without needing someone to push me. I think I will blame it on the plain swings that were a part of my childhood. I would have succeeded more quickly with horse swings.
Learning new things takes time. I spent a lot of time crashing into the water as I tried to learn how to water ski. Attempt after attempt seemed to result in less and less graceful ways of wiping out. Once I figured out what I was doing wrong and I was able to glide along the top of the water instead of crashing into it, water skiing actually became fun as opposed to frustrating.
Living on a farm and learning to drive a tractor as an adolescent was an arduous task. “Let out the clutch slowly,” my dad would say. As the tractor jerked, and the hay bales on the wagon were jolted around, I knew it was bad news for me if the bales had to be picked up a second time. As I got older and was the one bucking the bales I clearly understood the angst. Eventually, the workings of the clutch became second nature.
As an adult I learned to drive a tractor-trailer (semi). Making it go forward was difficult enough. Backing it into tight parking spots required another level of expertise. It was so refreshing to get to the point where I was no longer scared to back it up. I knew where it was going and I knew how much room I needed to get it into the desired spot. The bigger the challenge the more I enjoyed the task at hand. Delivering a 105 foot long utility pole into the downtown streets of St. Louis was one of the bigger challenges. Backing an oil tanker into an electrical substation could also be a bit unnerving. If the station was still “hot” the driver had to worry about the electrical current arcing over and zapping the trailer or truck. Thankfully, I never experienced that event personally. Seeing the results on someone else’s vehicle was enough to heighten my awareness level.
Why am I spending time describing these various learning scenarios? I want to compare and contrast learning some of these types of things and our spiritual life. Do you pray? If so, how did you learn how to pray? Is it second nature to you now or do you still feel a little awkward and apprehensive about “doing it right?” Have you learned about the faith to the degree that it is now second nature to you? Does your day consist of making decisions automatically with the principles and teachings of the Church forefront in your mind? Is being Catholic (Christian) second nature to you?
Being a follower of Jesus Christ requires persistence. We don’t simply accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior and then walk perfectly in His ways. We still have free will. It necessitates prayer, study, and repeated good actions to develop the habits needed for a vibrant Christian life. We may fall frequently. Do we have the courage and tenacity to get back up and begin again. Remember, we aren’t just called to be mediocre followers of Christ. We are called to be great saints.
We can find all kinds of things in which to blame our failures and shortcomings. I have tried it. When I couldn’t get up on the water skis I blamed the skis, the rope, and the person running the boat. Bottom line is that I was still spending more time in the water than gliding on top of the water. Having a fancy swing or a plain swing wouldn’t have made any difference when I was trying to learn how to pump my legs correctly. I needed guidance and practice. The same is true for the spiritual journey. I need guidance and practice. I also need to be accountable. A good spiritual director can play an awesome role in the journey.
In closing, I simply ask you the following: 1. Are you “practicing” the faith? This includes daily prayer and at least weekly Mass attendance. 2. Are you continuing to study the faith on a regular basis? Do you know what the Church teaches and how it applies to your day-to-day life? 3. Are you putting your faith into “practice”? Faith without works is dead.
Have you pulled out your scrapbook lately and spent some time reminiscing? Do people even have scrapbooks any longer or is everything kept digitally preserved? Well, I have a scrapbook and it is falling apart. The plastic pages have lost their grip, the pictures are turning yellow, and the newspaper clippings are looking a bit worn and tattered. It may be symbolic of the way I feel recently since spending a couple of days in the hospital in March. I just don’t feel up to speed and probably resemble my scrapbook in many ways.
I had not looked at my scrapbook for many years, but I was prompted to do so this week because of something that caught my eye on the internet. I was looking for an on-line video of a homily I gave about seven or eight years ago before moving to Wyoming. I typed my name into the search engine to see if I could locate what I wanted to see. I became distracted when I saw my name associated with a website of which I was unfamiliar. So I clicked on the site. To my surprise there was an article published in the Heartland Connection on March 31, 2015 which mentioned me by name. http://www.heartlandconnection.com/sports/story.aspx?id=1185091#.VVurR_lViko It said, “On the mound, redshirt freshman Kent Frantz is the first Bulldog hurler to start 5-0 on a season since Vernon Dobelmann did so in 1982.”
I was unaware that going 5-0 as a pitcher was that dramatic of an accomplishment. It was a bit surprising to read in this article that another pitcher at the university had not succeeded in doing so in the last 33 years until Kent came along this year. A lot has changed in those 33 years, including the name of the school. It was Northeast Missouri State University when I attended. Now it is Truman State University.
Reading this article prompted me to pull out my scrapbook and spend some time looking back. It gave me a sense of perspective of how things change through the years. I played basketball and baseball at the university level and enjoyed a certain amount of success in each sport. I received Honorable Mention to the Academic All-American Baseball Team my senior year. This was my favorite accomplishment because I valued the education I received in addition to the privilege of playing sports.
Why does any of this matter today? It fills me with a sense of gratitude. I was blessed to play in two different sports at the collegiate level and attain my academic education via a basketball scholarship. That is truly a blessing. It also reminds me that everything I have is a gift from God. It was only three short years after graduation from college that I was diagnosed with cancer the first time. I am about to hit my 29th anniversary of being a survivor since the first diagnosis and 14 years since the second diagnosis. The health and vigor I enjoyed as a young man in college is not something I take for granted. Major surgery and chemotherapy treatments have a way of letting you know just how precious the gift of good health truly is.
I can no longer dunk a basketball. I can no longer throw an 85 mph fastball or a sharp curve ball. However, I have the memories of those days. I have the memories of the college campuses I was able to see because of sports. I played as far away as Anchorage and Kotzebue, Alaska to the north and west and Florence, Alabama to the south and east. Those were some fantastic experiences.
My scrapbook may be fading and crumbling. That is okay. I still enjoy the pictures and the memories. My health and vitality is not what it used to be. That is okay. I am a child of God and blessed with grace. A trip down memory lane reminded me that life has not always been easy. That is okay. The suffering has highlighted the many comforts, pleasures, and priviliges that have also been present on the journey.
What are some of your favorite memories from days gone by? Take some time today to give thanks to God for all of the blessings.
This is 1983 at the University of Missouri St. Louis I was able to wear the number 30 for both sports my senior year
On April 22, 1994, the largest lollipop was created in Denmark weighing 3,011 pounds. I guess a lollipop that large would discourage an individual from biting into it rather than just sucking on it. I can still remember the commercials from many years ago asking the question about how many licks does it take to get to the inside of the lollipop. We couldn’t seem to get the answer for a regular sized lollipop so I guess there won’t be an answer for one weighing over 3,000 pounds.
Who conceived the idea to create a 3,011 pound lollipop? Next question, why? What is the point? Is this just an example of some of the bizarre things people do to try to get “into the record books.” Was the previous record just a pound less or why did such an odd number get chosen? Was it supposed to be an even 3,000 pounds and something got messed up? These are some of the questions bouncing around in my head, but I digress.
I don’t necessarily have a desire to do something outlandish to attract attention, but on the other hand, I am not opposed to utilizing creative measures in my teaching and preaching responsibilities. On occasion, I have made use of props in my homilies. Some people appreciate the visual accessories while others have politely (and not so politely) told me what to do with my props. I guess there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach to the techniques of preaching.
I simply raise the issue today to stir your creative network. In a world that seeks to get information in 30 second sound bites, how do we convey the message of the Gospel so that it gets heard? I don’t want to print a 3,011 pound Bible, but how can we generate interest in our parishioners to read, study, pray, and meditate upon the sacred Scriptures? How do we awaken the flock to hasten them to the Lord. Building up the Kingdom of God is no small task. We each have a responsibility to do our part. I think it is time for us to “GO BIG or GO HOME!”
Have you ever noticed how “clean” our crosses and even our crucifixes are? We have frequently turned them into pieces of art rather than depict them as the instruments of death for which they were actually used. Is that because we are unable to cope with the gruesome reality of a brutal execution? Mel Gibson’s movie years ago The Passion of Christ certainly provided a vivid depiction of the horrendous sufferings Jesus endured at the time of His death. Today, “YOUTUBE” videos provide the gruesome images. Torture and death are certainly not clean.
Watching the evening news just makes my stomach churn. I want to be an informed individual, and yet, each time I learn of more awful events happening around the world, I want to throw up my hands in despair. It can seem like there is no hope. Life in our world today is not clean. Actually, has it ever been? I guess we can go all the way back to Adam and Eve to watch the trend begin. Cain and Abel certainly gave us a taste of brutality in action.
As more and more Christians are taken hostage in the Middle East, my heart breaks for them and their families. Is there not something we can do to stop these atrocities? Is it my imagination, or is the whole world just sitting by watching these things happen with more and more frequency? There are many Christians carrying some heavy crosses.
Frequently, we don’t have to look across the globe to see people carrying their crosses. There is a lot of pain and suffering close to home as well. It may not be the cross of martyrdom that Middle East Christians are facing, but it can be painful nonetheless. How do we find the strength to carry the crosses in our lives? I don’t simply want to throw out a casual response, but I think we essentially pray and seek God’s grace, strength, and perseverance. That can be easier said than done at times. I am good at the first part of Jesus’ prayer, “Father, let this cup pass from me.” It’s the second part of the prayer that I have difficulty offering. What was it again?
Today, I offer a prayer for all who are carrying the cross of aging and/or failing health. I clearly remember my own struggles through multiple surgeries, chemotherapy, and a plethora of tests throughout the last three decades in my two battles with cancer and open heart surgery. That is not to mention the WAITING FOR RESULTS from those tests and the anguish that accompanies that process. It is not easy to cope with the reality of suffering and the loss of one’s independence. I see that clearly in my mom’s own recent experience. Today marks three weeks since her surgery to repair her broken hip. Life has changed immensely for her in literally the blink of an eye.
Yes, my mom still rode with my brother on his motorcycle just a few years ago. (At least I think that is her underneath that helmet.)
In March of 2014 my mom wanted to visit the Holy Spirit Adoration Sisters in St. Louis. They are known as the “Pink Sisters.” Years ago when my mom and dad were first married they made novenas at the chapel with the sisters praying for a variety of intentions. Our visit less than a year ago was very nice.
In October of 2014, just four months ago, mom and I made a trip to EWTN in Irondale, Alabama. On the way we stopped at a few other places such as the Grand Ole Opry House in Nashville.
Stopping at Steak-N-Shake is necessary too. Recovering from a broken hip is no small task for an elderly individual. However, I am going to hold out hope that we will eventually be sitting at Steak-N-Shake where mom can enjoy her strawberry shake while I enjoy my chocolate one.
As we approach the Second Sunday of Lent, my prayer is that we will each experience the love of God as we hear the Gospel account of the Transfiguration of Jesus. May each of us experience grace as we carry our individual crosses and be able to echo the words of Peter, “Master, it is good that we are here.”
In the course of my years of ministry as a deacon I have had many people ask me to pray for them, especially when they were in a time of crisis. Frequently, this has included prayers for physical healing when someone has been diagnosed with a serious illness. To be open and honest, I have sought this type pf healing in my own life when I have been facing serious illness. As I look back now and reflect through my spiritual journey which has included cancer twice and open heart surgery as well, I have come to distinguish the difference between a desire for a physical cure and a desire for true healing.
Jesus cured people of physical illness during his ministry on earth; the accounts of these episodes are laid out for us in the Sacred Scriptures. As I have studied the Scriptures lately I seem to be more drawn to the healing component of a variety of these encounters depicted for us. The healing touch of Jesus goes much deeper than the physical cure of a particular malady. God wants to bring us the fullness of healing; we are blessed indeed.
As we prepare for the season of Lent, let us reflect upon our baptismal call to holiness. Are we responding to God’s call with zeal and enthusiasm? Do we seriously yearn for the light of Christ to shine in our lives? My concern is that we can easily grow complacent if we are not diligent in making our relationship with Christ a priority in our lives. There are plenty of other things that scream for our attention. If we are not watchful, the devil will not only prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls, he will pounce upon the opportunity when we are not alert. Turning away from sin and remaining faithful to the Gospel requires diligence on part so that we walk in God’s grace.
The picture above was taken on Valentine’s Day in front of St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Church in Fort Collins, Colorado. It almost appears that the clouds opened up at the right time for the picture to be taken. In reality, the love of God dispels the darkness each and every day of our lives. We are children of light. Let us live faithfully in that light!